The More You Know, The More There Is To Know

My wife is an amazing woman.

One of the many things that attracted me to her was what I saw in her. I mean in her. As a character, as a human being of worth, as a masterpiece of God’s creation I was fascinated in her. Sure there’s the physical aesthetics that are obviously very important to me. I love physical beauty and am very glad God blessed me with that. Very glad indeed. Far more than that, though, is the riches of who she is.

What I have discovered over the years is that to do justice to what I see in her is to really be faithful to her. Truly cherish that which I see in her and endeavour not to tarnish that by either taking her for granted or worse still neglecting her and giving attention to something or someone else. Truly cherishing her is not about just sticking with a routine, it’s about exploring and enquiring and celebrating new discoveries that might spark new routines and rhythms in our relationship.

What that implies is that there are new discoveries to be made and that is the reality. However much I think I know my wife, there is more to know about her. She is not a static object of an extremely limited nature. No. She is a woman. She is a remarkable woman too and she’s a woman that’s still growing. Growing in character, growing in outlook and growing in how she expresses herself. It makes no sense interacting with her the same way now as I did all those years ago. That more I know, the more I recognise there is to know about her and in respect of that I must embrace that and respond to that accordingly. It is not easy, but it is delightful. I am not perfect, but I endeavour to be diligent. There is so much more to come from her whilst there is so much to celebrate about her in the here and now.

To some degree there are expressions of this in the friendships I treasure. There are few people I could write about who intrigue and stimulate the commitment from me in growing to know them. That degree is not the same as my wife, it does highlight for me, however, the beauty to be found in celebrating the truth that relationships are enjoyable when you know that the more you know, the more there is to know.

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For His Name’s Sake

Shalom

C. L. J. Dryden