You need some time on your own. That’s fine.
Sometimes, though, the desire for privacy is a cover for something else. A cover for an inability to relate to others. A cover for a desire to protect a broken heart. Broken by so many relationships that went awry. So as to ensure that won’t happen again it’s a defensive mechanism. Keep people at a safe distance. Don’t let them come in and see too much. Control as much as possible and ensure hurt won’t happen again.
At the same time as those defences are being built, and control being mastered, we slowly slip away from each other. Just out of reach from each other. Tantalising in proximity, but achingly just out of contact. We get so close on so many occasions, but it just never seems to work out. As we mourn another miss, so we come across that sense of loneliness.
It’s as though no one truly understands and no one can spend the time to truly care.
Though there’s value in being on your own, it’s a devastating thing to live in loneliness.
That’s why it remains incredible to know that by His grace I can ditch loneliness. His love didn’t just set me up for a right relationship with Him. It set me up to join a family. One that seeks to embrace God in His character and share that in mutually submissive and edifying relationship.
I look forward to and enjoy family occasions. Marked by our mutual commitment to Christ, there’s enough to fill the heart with the wonder of God.
That is certainly about prioritising places to go and people to know. It guarantees nothing but stimulates further exploration of the truth. It gives us a gospel opportunity to show there’s enough in Christ in God to overcome.
For His Name’s Sake
Shalom
C. L. J. Dryden
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