There is a difference between being submissive and being a walk over.
It’s a pity in a day and age that scoffs at anything less than being forward, confident and fully assured that taking a back step, being submissive and seeking to understand others is considered weak. It’s a pity because time after time it is not the brash, loud and overwhelming personalities that make the difference.
It’s more than basic manners. Basic manners helps you remain relatively inoffensive. Gaining favour comes through recognising people and the roles they play and being open to instruction from them. That degree of flexibility and openness, that degree of due honour to others can gain favour.
Some talk about brown-nosing or sucking up to people. What’s off-putting about this is about attitude. Where the attitude is about saying the right words to big up people’s ego, no wonder resentment can creep in. When there’s authenticity and consistency in approach regardless of the name, that tag no longer applies. When people recognise the genuine character to serve any resentment becomes more a reflection of the poor character of the one who resents.
As these relationships of respect are developed and favour is gained scope widens to exercise influence. Influence that doesn’t just look to benefit self, but considers others and the greater good. The same attitude that gained favour gives credence to the character’s input.
That’s why it is in the best interests of those looking to progress and make positive impact to society, to take the route less bombastic.
For His Name’s Sake
Shalom
C. L. J. Dryden
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