My Dad is my example in presenting a calm, considered response to situations.
I have no recollection of my Dad having a fierce temper. I have little recall of him raising his voice or needing to shout. I’m not saying these things didn’t happen, I’m saying I can’t remember him doing these things.
My memories are of him facing someone hyperventilating with anxiety about something. He would calmly and slowly entreat the individual. I can hear him now meekly calling the person and with a wry knowing smile getting them to take their time with him to understand what the situation was. Before too long the other person calmed down and as they outlined their issue they began to see for themselves the best path to resolving the situation.
Dad did little or nothing in that process other than listen and encourage further disclosure as much as the person wanted to divulge. His reassuring and serene nature relatively unruffled by the fuss around him became a walking peace zone.
So I witnessed firsthand how gentle responses could prevent the escalation of tense and worry-filled settings. Not only did it stop a potentially messy situation, it served as a platform for others to be blessed.
In as much as it’s a good thing to be proactive and set the agenda, there’s a lot to be said for genuinely hearing other people. Looking to understand first. Only then offer the best response that shows care, not even about having the answer.
Some may never have come across such approaches, and to give that room and time for expression that can then be channeled productively can be worth its weight in gold.
My Dad was brilliant at that. I appreciate I still struggle from time to time with how people can behave. It’s certainly something you practice over your life and situations always present themselves. I trust, though, I’ll be able to do some kingdom good by knowing that splendid proverb.
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (Proverbs 15:1)
For His Name’s Sake
Shalom
C. L. J. Dryden
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