Hello and welcome to a very rare treat – a blog entry about me!
OK even more rare – an entry about me and me wife!! Those don’t come by too often. In fact with recent family commitments, more than one blog entry a day here is fairly rare. It’s not scheduled to be a long one, but then you know how it goes.
Anyway I was directed to this article, the beginning of a series of reviews by a big fan of Dr. Who on ALL the stories that have been broadcast since 1963 (in as much as you can get them). (That’s a lot of stories.) The twist with this exercise is that the writer is actually getting his wife to watch it with him and his wife is not a fan at all.
It was such a novel idea that it got me thinking about the dynamic of my own relationship with my wife. (Don’t worry Authrine, I won’t divulge the secrets … yet.) I’m a pretty peculiar, somewhat unorthodox and not necessarily the most gregarious and outgoing of men. I’ve said I’m a loner and there’s not been too much to change. A lot of my hobbies and pastimes are ones that I can enjoy more than comfortably on my own – like watching Dr. Who. Indeed most of the time I savour those rare moments on my own to enjoy the company of the person I know better than anyone else – me.
So in the light of all that it’s actually interesting to note that I cannot think of a pastime or hobby I enjoy that my wife would be left out on. In fact every major hobby of mine is something that my wife wouldn’t just tolerate, but on occasion when the time arises, she herself would get immersed into it as well. Whether it’s the football (she supports Liverpool … by association) or enjoying a good movie, she will be more than happy to engage in it with me. I have to say as well, I prefer it that way. I like being able to share that area of my life with my wife. It’s not to say she crowds me at all, or feels too clingy to be left on her own, it’s just to say that she is willing and able to join me and get me to appreciate what I enjoy from a different perspective.
Having her there to do that means quite a lot to me and I’m thankful to God for having that kind of woman to be my partner of days.
So you might enquire whether I reciprocate and the brutal answer is no. Yet, the dynamic of our relationship does not require me to do so to the same extent she does to me for I compensate in being a sounding board to her on all and sundry that she feels the need to share. So even if I don’t do the activity there and then with her, the experience is still relayed as she shares her concerns on the matter to a sympathetic ear. (That ear belonging to me, just to clarify!)
Married life is beautiful in getting to share each other’s lives and grow together by it – appreciating, acclimatising and adapting to all the ins and outs that are involved in that kind of life. Not just about hobbies, obviously, but being sensitive to the character traits of the other, picking up on the key triggers that might set out something awful or something beautiful and preparing for either. This married life business really has its upsides, and for all me stuff about being a loner, I definitely prefer life with me wife to life without.
Dear Lord, thanks for married life – thanks that life isn’t to be lived on me own, but you send people to share it with on all levels of intimacy -whether the camaraderie of an acquaintance or the closeness of the brother. Thanks a lot, loving Father.
For His Name’s Sake
Shalom
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